Every man should know about this universal thing common to almost all women, at least in some period of their life.
• Menarche: Menstruation starts when a girl hits sexual maturity, or Puberty.
• Menstruation, in simple terms, is the periodic ejection of the blood and inner uterine wall through the vagina.If conception had occurred, this would have provided the favourable conditions for the zygote to grow. It happens at the end of a menstrual cycle,a cycle which usually lasts for 28 days.
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a collection of emotional symptoms, with or without physical symptoms, related to a woman’smenstrual cycle. While most women of child-bearing age (up to 85%) report having experienced physical symptoms related to normal ovulatory function, such as bloating or breast tenderness, medical definitions of PMS are limited to a consistent pattern of emotional and physical symptoms occurring only during the luteal phase of the menstrual cycle that are of “sufficient severity to interfere with some aspects of life”. In particular, emotional symptoms must be present consistently to diagnose PMS. The specific emotional and physical symptoms attributable to PMS vary from woman to woman, but each individual woman’s pattern of symptoms is predictable, occurs consistently during the ten days prior to menses, and vanishes either shortly before or shortly after the start of menstrual flow.
Two to ten percent of women have significant premenstrual symptoms that are separate from the normal discomfort associated with menstruation in healthy women.
• Women’s emotional and physical reactions to their menstruation vary widely. Some of us are not in the best of our moods during periods. Nor would you have been, if you’d have stuff oozing between your legs. Now add all the hormonal changes and physical pain. So do me a favour, and never joke about PMS. You haven’t experienced it, have you? So shut up, and pamper your girl who is in discomfort.
• Women generally use tampons (inside the vagina) or sanitary pads (outside) during those days. They come in various size and shapes, designed to be used according to one’s flow, and requirement. Before, women used to use cotton cloth, but this is neither efficient, nor a hygienic method. Don’t be shy about them, if needed offer to get her tampons/ pads if she has run out of stock, or any such need arises.
• If there is an unusual delay, or heavy flow, please do advise her to get a check up.
• Try opening up with women (close friends, girl friend) on these regards. More often than not, they would be happy to burst your myth bubbles.
• This is not a disgusting thing. Okay, it might gross you out a little, but be considerate, and don’t be insensitive. If the woman sees that you are uncomfortable or grossed out by it, she wouldn’t be very open with you about all this.
• Menopause: This marks the end of menstruation,or in short, the reproductive ability of a woman.
I don’t understand why a very natural and unavoidable process like this is a taboo. I hope things change, and men and women talk more freely about it, ’cause hey, you would be having daughters too, and she should be able to talk to you freely about it. Menstruation and related topics should no longer remain an only mother-daughter talk, in my opinion.
Unlike in the world of TV and Movies, you aren’t owed a woman simply for being the hero of your own story. Women aren’t prizes for success, or even prizes for participation. They are actually conscious beings with thoughts, emotions, opinions, ideas, and lots of other things besides the parts that fit in lingerie. Recognizing this is the first step toward having a mature adult relationship with a woman.
We are naturally meaty, salty, hairy creatures made from the same stuff as you, fellas. Not fragrant, sweet, flowery nymphs devoid of hair from the eyebrows down. That guff takes a shitload of time and money.
That a ‘No’ means a no.
‘No’ does not mean try harder.
I think men, especially in India, need to realize this.